Distance makes the heart grow fonder! Or is it distance makes the fond heart wander? Oh the agony and the ecstasy of a long distance relationship!!!
The sweet pain of being apart in a dramatic “I’ll hold you in my heart, till I can hold you in my arms”, kind of way!
The good news for long distance couples is that given technology today, communication isn’t about waiting for the postman, or booking an STD call anymore. Mobile phones, SMS, facebook etc can keep you connected with the day-to-day happenings in your loved ones life, and via Skype you can actually chat face to face, short of a tight hug and the smell of their perfume, they can be a part of your daily life.
Being in constant touch, however, is very different from keeping a vigil. Trust is vital for a relationship to survive the distance. Distrust is the weed that will suffocate and kill it. The bad news however, is that we’re human. The sexual void and lack of touch can either lead partners to stray or consume them with suspicion. Of course, you should watch out for warning signs like change in behaviour, a lack of enthusiasm, diminishing communication or simply your instinct. But the important thing to remember is that paranoia and instinct are two separate things.
As is quoted, “Distance is not for the fearful, it is for the bold. It’s for those who are willing to spend a lot of time alone in exchange for a little time with the one they love. It’s for those knowing a good thing when they see it, even if they don’t see it nearly enough…” take the missing positively! I read a lovely quote that said, “Missing someone gets easier everyday because even though you are one day further from the last time you saw them, you are one day closer to the next time you will.”
- My boyfriend recently moved to London as he got a good job offer. On facebook, someone tagged a photo of him at a party in a very intimate embrace with a woman. When I questioned him, he said it was all in fun at an office party, that she was just a friend and that I was over reacting. I don’t know whether to trust him. What should I do?
Well, he certainly seems up close and super friendly with his work mates! Maybe he’s just forming happy bonds in a new environment. I don’t blame you for having your antennae up, but perhaps it was just a moment of revelry. As long as he is consistent in his contact with you and emotionally connected, you should trust him. However, if it deeply bothers you over time, go visit him, meet her, see the equation they share, and what vibes you get thrown at you by her. Sure shot way of knowing!!!